Now that Jake has found love, he's suddenly the most popular guy in the room. What gives?
By Jake
This is going to sound conceited, but more women checked me out last month than in all of last year. I've made heads turn on the street, gotten winked at and even been asked for my number twice.
This is so not my usual role in life. But take, for example, last week, when I was out at a bar with some buddies. My friend struck up a conversation with a woman, and before long her group joined ours and I wound up talking to a charmingly sarcastic redhead. Normally someone this hot wouldn't be the least bit impressed by me. That night, however, I seemed to dazzle her with my sparkling conversation, and when it was time to head out, she asked, "Why don't we get together sometime?" Where was she six months ago, when I was alone in my apartment, Googling exes on a Friday evening?
I have a feeling I know what's going on here: I'm taken. After thinking about the reasons I could have gone from being a man who couldn't get a woman to give him directions to one whom the ladies want to take home, I've hit on four possibilities:
Women have a sixth sense
I imagine there's a female radar that says, "He's about to commit to someone. Let's get in there!" That may be the only way to explain why two women I dated one pretty seriously, the other a passing fling called me out of the blue recently "just to say hi" and to suggest we hang out. Don't get me wrong it's not that I don't wonder what my exes are up to (see Friday night Googling). But I didn't know the proper etiquette for the situation. Was I supposed to mention that I'm with someone? Technically they didn't ask, although it certainly felt like they wanted to know. Both seemed raring to compete with the new girl, whoever she was. I decided to say nothing and politely decline by blaming my (truthfully) busy schedule. Disaster averted.
I've upped my game
Since Claudia* is a great dresser, I now pay more attention to my appearance, opting for dry-cleaned oxfords instead of T-shirts
off the floor so people don't wonder why a hottie is with a slob. My gym membership is also finally getting some regular use as I make an effort to be the man candy she deserves. Just wish I'd done all this sooner.
I stopped "scouting"
When any guy enters a room, he unconsciously scouts two things: impending danger and the lady situation. (Next time you're out with a man, tell him to close his eyes and describe the women immediately around him. If he's honest with you, he'll get an A+ every time.) Riding the subway, writing at the cafι places where I'd usually ogle a little I'm now lost in my own Claudia-centered world. When I manage to pull my head out of the clouds, it's not uncommon to look up and find someone stealing a glance at me. Is it possible she's drawn to a smiling fool because he's completely ignoring her?
My confidence is soaring
A remarkable woman continues to take my phone calls; I can't help but think I must have some good stuff to offer. Just like women can sniff out insecurity, I believe they also know self-assurance when they see it.
But whatever the reason, all of this attention has only cemented my feelings for Claudia. Instead of plotting how I'm going to capitalize on my sudden lady magnetism, I'm realizing that no one out there holds a candle to the girlfriend I already have. Dare I ask, is this what they call growing up? *Name has been changed.
Sean Reid:
My friend i know exactly what you mean, lately since ive been with the girl of my dreams and i have no shame in telling who it is, her name is Crystal, but lately ever since ive been with her and its been 8 months now, this girl has literally fallin deep in love with me and i mean hard. And ill admit it, ive fallin extremly hard for her as well. But ever since then i know how u feel when u say women must have a 6th sense because ever since ive been with this girl, girl upon girls have struck intrest in me and paying more attention when it comes to me walking in or just talking to someone. And when they notice this sense has gone off, they automatically take interest for lord who knows why. But all i can say is good job on basically beating the women off with a stick and staying loyal to the 1 your with, ive done the same and plan to keep doing it. More power to you.
